Parenting is tricky business and most Christian parents are committed to doing it right. So they turn to others for guidance. And there is no end of help out there—from foolproof programs to guaranteed strategies, all designed to produce perfect kids. Except . . . parenting that focuses on how to raise kids to behave according to someone else's expectations will never succeed. Our first step must be to ask why instead of how. It is not the how-tos of parenting that will accomplish what we're hoping; it's intentional discipleship. When we concentrate on shepherding our children's hearts instead of managing their behaviors, the result is a child who knows Christ intimately, loves him deeply, and has a heart to serve him fully.