“A revelatory re-conceptualization of how we create love.” — Dr. Emily Nagoski, bestselling author of Come As You Are and Burnout Many of us were raised with the idea that true love means finding our "other half" and that a spark is the best foundation for successful long-term partnerships and marriages. But what if this understanding is flawed? Grounded in two decades of original research and work with couples from around the world, Love by Design introduces a groundbreaking new foundation for The Emergent Love Model. As Dr. Nasserzadeh knows, successful partnerships do not thrive on love, at least as we know it. Instead of chasing our butterflies we need to cultivate six core relational ingredients that make it possible for love to Offering dozens of exercises and reflection prompts, this groundbreaking book—perfect for fans of 8 Rules of Love or The Love Prescription—will give readers a new foundation for their coupledom—one that will help your coupledom thrive for a lifetime.