Decode the 13 conflicts that derail many couples’ communication after kids—like what you’re really saying when you fight about discipline or diapers, and how to work through tough issues together—from popular Instagram counselors Erin Mitchell, MACP, and Stephen Mitchell, PhD Parenting changes a couple’s relationship in fundamental ways, but most parents are too exhausted from dealing with kids, work, and the demands of life to prioritize their relationship. This can lead to repeated conflict and an overwhelming sense of anxiety, anger, hurt, and even loneliness…just when you need your partner’s support the most. The good conflict is actually a sign you are striving to connect with your mate—you’re just missing the mark. In Too Tired to Fight, parenting couple Erin and Stephen Mitchell use their over twenty years of counseling experience to walk couples through the 13 conflicts that are not just expected but necessary to keep a partnership strong once kids enter the picture, such The “My Life Has Changed and Yours Hasn’t” Fight • The “You Don’t Trust Me as a Parent” Fight • The “I’m All Touched Out” Fight • The “I Can’t Do Anything Right” Fight • The “Whose Job Is This” Fight • The “I’m So Stressed” Fight • The “I’m More Tired Than You” Fight • The “Where Do We Spend the Holidays” Fight • The “My Way Is Right” Fight • The “Should I Stay Home With the Kids” Fight • The “Sex Life? What Sex Life?” Fight • The “I Hate Your Family” Fight • The “Why Can’t You Just Get Over It” Fight In each scenario, they show how this conflict plays out in a family—and offer scripts, exercises, and their “fighting right” equation to transform that conflict into connection, in the moment. Their by intentionally expressing and intentionally listening to your partner—not just venting or reacting to your stress response system—you can work through the “pain points” of parenthood, together, and actually make your relationship happier and healthier as a result.
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Librarian Note: There is more than one author by this name in the Goodreads data base. "I was Leverhulme Professor of Hellenistic Culture from 2002 in 2011 and am now emeritus during an active retirement. I was made a Fellow of the British Academy in 2002 and served for some years on its Council. Most of my published work has been concerned with Asia Minor in antiquity, explored through texts, inscriptions and archaeology, with a particular emphasis in recent years on religious and cultural history. The bench-mark publication of my earlier career was Anatolia. Land, Men, and Gods in Asia Minor (2 vols. OUP 1993). During my time at Exeter I directed an AHRC-funded research project on Pagan Monotheism in the Roman Empire, which led to two important conference volumes, including One God. Pagan Monotheism in the Roman Empire (CUP 2010) and two CUP monographs written by the project's post-doctoral and doctoral researchers, Peter Van Nuffelen and Anna Collar. I received an honorary doctorate in 2006 from the Theology Department at the Humboldt University in Berlin and this has led to close involvement in an ongoing project to study the history of early Christianity in Asia Minor, part of the Berlin TOPOI initiative. In due course I plan to write a book which will follow the non-Pauline tradition of the earliest Christian communities in Asia relating them to their Jewish and pagan contexts. I was a founder member and first director of Exeter Turkish Studies, and am now Honorary Secretary of the British Institute at Ankara, which provides the focal point - and some of the funding - for British academic research in Turkey in the Humanities and Social Sciences. Another major project has been to prepare the corpus of Greek and Latin inscriptions of Ankara. The first volume has been published, and the second, which was advanced during a semester at the University of Cologne in 2012, is in preparation. At Exeter I wrote A History of the Later Roman Empire 285-641 (Blackwell 2007, second edition in preparation)." http://humanities.exeter.ac.uk/classi...
