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Leaving Normal
Adventures in Gender
2015
First Published
4.36
Average Rating
115
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Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender is creative nonfiction that takes an unflinching but humorous look at living as a butch in a pink/blue, boy-girl, M/F world. Here's my theory: I've always been a butch. When I was a child, it was called being a "tomboy" (also known as "embarrassing my mother"). Back then, I liked to think I was a boy-girl hybrid, perhaps grown from special heirloom seeds. Later in life, I came out as a lesbian, which explained my fondness for flannel and sensible shoes, as well as my masculine ways. Still, something wasn't quite right. I watched spectator-like as my hair got shorter and my clothes started coming from the opposite side of the department store. When someone called me "sir" for the first time, I realized I had unintentionally crossed over into foreign territory—that sliver of space that exists in the middle place between the absolutes of boy and girl. Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender is for anyone who has ever felt different, especially those who have found themselves living in the gender margins without a rule book.

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Author

Rae Theodore
Rae Theodore
Author · 3 books
Rae Theodore lives in Royersford, Pa., with her wife, children and, in stereotypical fashion, her cats. By day, she works as a staff writer for one of the world's largest communications firms. By night, she writes about living in that middle place where boy and girl collide. Her favorite day of the week is Tuesday because that's when her writers' group meets. You can read about her adventures in gender nonconformity at middleagebutch.wordpress.com.
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